We were born and nearly raised by the time love was invented. Just after the big bombs went off, it was, when parents went looking for hope and found it in their suddenly nuclear families. Everything was nuclear then. We hadn’t invented blending and extension. Human couples mated for life and multiplied, or were ostracized, pitied and ridiculed. Singles of any sort were not to be trusted. Even widows were suspect. Apparently, when I tore through the first floor of my good buddy Tony’s house on the day of his birthday party, which happened to fall on Labor Day weekend and, so, had to involve all sorts of adults—apparently I had a motive of some kind when I knocked the precious ashtray off the stupid little table Tony’s mom had stuck in the hallway I was running through trying to pull down Tony’s sister’s pants. Tony’s dad saw me streaking toward the foyer and knocked me to the floor with a good hard smack. I got up and I didn’t cry, but I looked at him and I didn’t run because I knew I had to. I looked at him as mean and hard as a ten-year-old could who didn’t want another. My dad was there. Tony’s dad said, This one needs to learn about indoors. My dad put his hand on my shoulder. I regret to this day that I flinched. Son, he said, Mister Capisi is talking to you; you’ve done some damage; did you apologize? I didn’t know if he was playing Truman or MacArthur, but I knew he was trying out something. Son, he said, Do you want another? And hearing that threat I learned that he loved me. He was showing me the way out. He didn’t know how else to do it.
Copyright © September 05, 2007 David Hodges
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September 5, 2007 at 5:34 pm
briseis
Brilliant!
“I didn’t know if he was playing Truman or MacArthur, but I knew he was trying out something…” is genius. I should be used to it, coming from you, shouldn’t I?
You know? It’s funny. I don’t get tired of hearing it. Thank you, Briseis.
–David
September 6, 2007 at 11:22 am
Ed Hardy, Jr.
You may find this to be a rather odd correlation: this story brought to mind one I heard years ago about Axl Rose, Kurt Cobain and Courtney Love. It’s backstage at some awards show and a confrontation arises. Courtney is talking shit. Axl says to Kurt, “Tell your bitch to shut up.” Kurt turns to Courtney, deadpan, and says, “Shut up. Bitch.” This works to utterly defuse the situation. The look that my mind conjured for the father’s face at the end of “Invention of Love,” as he looks down to the son and says, “Do you want another?,” and his tone as he says it, is the same expression and tone that I assign to Kurt in that moment.
Thanks for another thought-provoking read.
Ed, I’m honored that you took the time to draw this excellent and illuminating comparison. And thank you, too, for telling the story so well. Please feel free to offer your odd correlations any time!
–David
September 9, 2007 at 3:41 am
wizzer
“…by the time love was invented”. What a depressing place that must have been before! I often use a third party’s viewpoint in a debate – it doesn’t become a personal challenge to win at all costs then. Great piece.
Wizzer, you are aces! You managed to fill my entire “Recent Comments” roll this morning! And with smart comments, too! You’re right about the third party gambit. Both at home and in the world it can really lower the temperature. Thanks again!
–David
September 10, 2007 at 3:41 am
wizzer
Two weeks away – 1 week catching up and a very enjoyable Sunday morning reading your novels that I missed in my absence.
Well, thanks, Wizzer. You gave me a very enjoyable Sunday morning, too, reading through the comments!
–David
September 11, 2007 at 6:47 pm
OmbudsBen
Did the ashtray break? I only ask because I want to know if love was born of a many-splintered thing.
I am standing on my chair to give you the ovation you truly deserve, Ben. That’s fantastic!
–David